Tuesday, November 1, 2011

Update:  I am a jackass...

Jackass?  Yes, major jackass.  I have to admit that I have been thinking about what I was going to do with this dude all night.  I woke up and decided that I need to just follow my gut, it could never be wrong.  What did my gut say?  To tell him off-via text.  This was a major mistake for two reasons:

1.  I am angry and frustrated because I have been thinking about it for too long.
2.  I really should have waited and talked to him on the phone.  I think that's what adults do, talk it out, not spit it out via text.  My fault.

I knew he was working so I didn't want to ream him out in front of his co-workers.  I stated the following:

'Listen, I have to be honest with you.  I think that it's best that we stop talking.  It seems like you aren't too interested in getting to know me any further.  You don't call, text or make plans to hang out.  I have been the one to initiate us getting together.  I want to be with someone that puts in the effort to communicate and see each other more often.  I know that you are busy with work, and I understand that, but I am looking for more.  I am I had to text you this but I didn't want to call you at work.'


So all day I am peachy, so happy that I stood up for myself and made it clear that I deserve better.  Honestly, I felt like a weight was lifted off my shoulders.  But, not for long...

He called a few hours later. I saw that he was calling me, but I didn't want to answer.  I waited for what seemed like an eternity to find out if he had the balls to leave me a voicemail and of course he did.  I was expecting him to apologize and beg to hang out, but instead he proceeded to tell me that when he flew to New York he was told that his position within his company was being terminated.  He has been running around like a chicken with his head cut off trying to get another position within the company and dissolving his whole team of engineers.  He sounded so sad.  I had no idea.  I feel like the biggest asshole.  I am sure my text was the icing on the cake for him.

I did call him back and left a voicemail explaining that I am here if he needs to talk, but I am sure he probably just deleted it.  See, that's the thing that sucks the most.  Once you say something, you can never ever take it back.  I know that this is a stupid example, but it's true. No matter how big or small and no matter what the situation, words mean the same thing.  You would think at 27 that I would know this by now, but I obviously haven't yet.  My bad.  Mental note for next time.

I will just have to wait and see what happens.  The ball is in his court now and that blows.